So, I guess I'll write about addictions. No, idea how I got that topic, but I bet it's because I wouldn't mind drinking until I fell back to sleep.
So, what the hell is an addiction?
Well, the dictionary says: the fact of condition of being addicted to a particular substance, thing, or activity. That is very unhelpful.
My definition is that addiction is a condition of being addicted (dependent) on something to the point that you can't function totally fine.
Now, why should I care about anybody with an addiction? It's their fault isn't it?
Let me tell you something about me. I am the kind of person who trades one bad habit for another. I realize that it's kind of my fault, but I could never tell you how it starts. It's not like an on/off switch.. where you're either have an addiction or you don't. I never knew I was addicted to anything until it got so bad other people would have to intervene or tell me. Why do you think people who have addictions don't think they have addictions? Some are in denial and others really just never saw it hit them.
Maybe it is their fault for having had tried it even once, but you can't blame everything on an error of judgment. People don't get high thinking "Let's get addicted!" Nobody thinks about addiction while they down that last shot of tequila while desperately trying to forget a failed relationship.
Nobody thinks about addiction. You know why?
'Cause nobody ever sees it happening to them.
And that mindset applies to other things too. Like, nobody thinks their child will cancer, or that their new wife will be killed in a car accident, or that they'll get some rare disease nobody has ever heard about. Nobody thinks it could happen to them. So, when it does it takes everybody by surprise.
Also, the way I see it, people can get addicted to anything... as long as it hinders their ability to function normally. So, unless your Internet addiction is keeping you from eating from day to day, or basically doing ANYTHING at all from day to day, you're not addicted.
Now, I just wish I knew the ultimate solution to addiction, but I don't. There are so many factors involved. In the end, the only sure-fire way not to get addicted to something is not to try it, and the only way to get rid of an addiction is to stop. Just like in the end of the day the only way to lose weight in a healthy way is to eat healthy and exercise. There's no avoiding it. But willpower also plays a part. You have to WANT to get out of an addiction, you have to WANT it so fucking much.
But why should you want to? I mean, the factors are real enough. Maybe your friends want you to do drugs or something... why risk losing that acceptance, those friendships, and that sense of belonging? Maybe your life simply sucks, and it takes the pain away. Maybe... if you could just hide it.. but you can't. Eventually, they all find out. So, simple. Maybe everybody's doing it, even your parents... so it's alright.. right?
But let me tell you something. Not once, not even once, did something truly good happen solely because of an addiction. I never discovered the meaning of life in a high, nor did I realize something truly meaningful about anything. All i ever realized is that it surrounds you with pain... not necessarily your own either. Suddenly, the people you care about the most are the ones that you can't help but keep hurting over and over again. They become the subjects of your angry outbursts and suddenly, you seem to be saying the most hurtful things ever to everybody. Why? Because you feel like shit and now everybody hurts.
Then everybody starts to leave, because you aren't getting better and you don't want to. They simply get tired of you. Then, the people you cared about most, they are all gone... and you get stuck with this empty feeling that no number of times you get high or drunk or anything can make you forget.
So, tell me... why WOULDN'T you want to get rid of an addiction?
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